“I am Tato Oragvelidze and I’m a fashion designer. I’m queer activist. It has been quite a long time since I started fighting so that I and thousand other people like me have the right to love who we want to love. be happy with whom we want to be.
It’s very hurtful to me when it’s coming from people who I grow up with, who raised me, people who were in my life before I analyzing genders, when love for me was a one whole substance and was not divided into different pieces, pieces that got filthy because various social constructs.
The situation when you are in love, becomes something to endure. to love means to have a lot problems and to be alone and these two are very incompatible to each other. because society, not only in a wide sense, but your own small society makes you to choose between the two sides: on one side there is an absolute loneliness, financial and emotional problems. And on the other side denying your individual self.
People ask you not to be the way you feel yourself, that you should suppress the feeling of loving someone when you are 13.
To me those feelings are exactly what late define my creative or emotional life, me life in general. When I think about this I always think about those girls and boys who were raised in my city and couldn’t manage to stay strong because it is very difficult.
You know nobody chooses the situation that queer people are in. It’s not even funny a conversation goes in that direction because it’s impossible to choose humiliation, solitude, to choose to be on the other side where you oppose the majority of our countries population.
A moment comes and you say “So what?! I’m not gonna pay attention to it”. I heard someone say once, it was probably my friend, ” It does matter then someone hates me. It harms me when someone hates me.” To me, even my smallest problem an trust me I’m not talking about small problems, is an entire world that is damaged. It’s difficult, you know to talk about these topics I am reminded of all the times something humiliating was said about my friends all the awful things.
These indifferent attitude towards queer people that is coming from our county angers me. I can’t see that the country is interested in the future of the queer people in their help. State with it’s indifference and with it’s worthless approach increases and intensifies hostility. there is between us and the rest of Georgia. I’m in a worse position because I even don’t know what I should do. I don’t know what is the solution.
ვებ-გვერდი შექმნილია RFSU-ს ფინანსური მხარდაჭერით.
სიდა, შვედეთის განვითარების სააგენტო, მთლიანად ან ნაწილობრივ აფინანსებს ამ მასალას.
